Oh I know what you're saying "Carrie, those aren't your earrings." No shit. They aren't my earrings. Here's a story for you to chew on. One day while buying supplies on etsy (You see I like to put as much money into etsy as possible a, to keep our fees lower and b, I know how hard it is to develop a following and I like having someone to follow as well.) so I stumble across a featured seller chat room.
It's an interesting concept, you buy something from someone who is really trying to put themselves out there and then you are next up. Of course there are those that run the risk of abusing the situation but nonetheless it's a good karma kinda thing. So I buy and I buy generously because these sellers aren't van gogh, neither am I and if throwing money at a newer seller gives them an opportunity to buy more suppiles or perhaps invest in advertising, why not do it? Here's why not...no good deed goes unpunished. That's why. I thought the concept was simple, you buy you're featured and as I do not like to be featured if you are the first buyer you go pick someone else. I like the picking someone else part, as it feels like double karma. I get a bunch of sales in a day, I go in there, buy from a few people who perhaps didn't and then pick yet someone else to get the chance to have sales. Seems a simple concept.
In walks in a borderline down syndrome bully asshole who decides that his wife hasn't been picked quite enough. She doesn't really buy she would just like to be picked so she sends her husband on some rampage calling all this somehow unfair. Unfair? You buy, you're next. What is unfair about this? If you don't get a sale you get to pick, it's YOUR pick so once again, what is unfair? I don't get it. He however decides to blow spam at the forum boards and cause administration grief because he has some perceived slight in his head a fairly mishaped three chinned head to boot. Little did I know I had purchased from his wife. Yeah, nice eh? I contributed my hard earned dollar to this freak's life. I received some sticky little ugly magnets that hit the garbage. You see that's the roll of the dice, you find a new seller but they don't always have it together that's why they don't have any sales in the first place. Every now and then you have to pitch something in the garbage and just take the hit. I am not a big fan of whispers in a chat room unless of course it's someone I'd actually like to speak to. This tard (the horrid magnet woman's husband) starts sending one convo after another the moment I show up. He'd like to know me better, he'd like to be my friend, he has problems with his wife and he's not really happy with his marriage (oh dear god there are married men in chicago I could be talking to who talks to married men on the net? let alone unemployable, unattractive, mental married guys who think it's hot to sit on a chat website?) I tell him to go fuck himself. Cause that's how I roll. I make fun of him because he's such a freaking easy target and now he's turned into a raging stalker. He's hell bent on getting me to like him. Here's a clue fuckard, if a woman doesn't like you there's a reason or 50. Your wife is stuck with your ignorant ass I am not. I am not going to wake up tomorrow and suddenly like you. Got it? And if that isn't silly enough he now has three or four women who back him up, pat him on the back and give him kudos. When will women learn that men who speak poorly of their wives will only one day speak that way of you?
So, in the future if he or his silly wife show up I don't buy it's that simple. The point of this whole post? The only way you can really hurt someone is to hit their pocketbook. If you spend your money furthering their life then they never fix their problems and leave other people alone. Your money has power and your decision how to spend it has power also. Even when someone is shitty to you and intrusive to your world all you have to do is cut off the money and eventually they have to go away if for no other reason than to find food.
Ok, so at this point you are saying "what about those earrings?" My train has no derailed. The earrings are from www.balanced.etsy.com. She's a California girl living in Ireland and I've purchased a few pieces of her lovely jewelry and I love them all. You can't buy the world's most amazing pendant because I own it. She made it and it got here in 3 days time from Ireland making me wonder what kind of brownies she's giving the postal people in Ireland to get them here so fast. She makes beaded things that will blow your head off.
I feature very few sellers on my blog because as you know I like to make sure they are quality. If you are looking for soap, you won't find better than Moonstruckmagic or Dennisanderson both you can find on etsy. Moonstruck magic's new york spa soap is an addiction like no other soap addiction I've ever known. Dennis' lime coconut exfoliant soap smells so good and the colors are so beautiful. He's one of those power power sellers who works his ass off but he's also a nice guy, very approachable and his blog is also interesting if you find your way over there take a peek.
I am working on having more time for blogging. I am always multi-tasking and it's hard to multi-task and write about what's going on in your life and make it all work. I do know that if you make your way over to a featured seller chat and find some thank you notes to send to customers, some earrings for your mom, or a little hair clip from Queenbee (another favorite seller) that you will be doing a good thing for them and for you. It's a win win.
You can always find my work at poetsummer.etsy.com and you can email me at summerpoet@msn.com if you'd like to be featured here. I'd be glad to take a peek. Thanks for spending this time with me, as always, Carrie.
